Section 6: Your Face
Your face is an area with a lot of signalling. In fact there is a lot of research into micro expressions people make subconsciously. People project a lot of information without knowing it. You can use your face to signal information about yourself to people.
Make your neutral face a happy face
Ever heard of ‘resting bitch face syndrome’? Some people claim their face at rest looks annoyed/angry, which makes people perceive them as a social danger. You preferably wouldn’t talk to a person with that kind of an expression on their face.
It says nothing about the actual person though. But it does disadvantage them.
Make sure that your face at rest (e.g. when you are working on a laptop) looks relaxed, if not happy. An easy trick is to have a look on your face like something is mildly amusing to you.
Don’t break eye contact instantly
People have a habit of looking away if they meet a person’s eyes. Try not do do this. Keep eye contact, and smile. Often people will look away, though some people will hold your gaze.
Doing this has multiple effects:
- People perceive you as more open
- You will feel more confident
Please note that when you hold someone’s gaze, be sure to smile. Looking impassively can be very creepy…
How to smile
There is a very simple trick to smiling: imagine you are seeing something you really like.
Smiling is not about moving your face in a certain way, it is about feeling a happy feeling and letting your face express it.